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Hogwarts Adventure Day at Zoo Knoxville – Family Trip Review

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A day at the zoo can be a great experience for any family. When our family heard that Zoo Knoxville was offering a Hogwarts Adventure Day, we had to investigate it.

Watch the video of our day and let us know if this looks like something that your family would enjoy.

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Calming Down After A Fight

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If you haven’t read one of my blogs before, my name is Jasmine Fink. I’m eleven years old, and I was adopted out of foster care. I hope my experiences will help other kids.


 

Today I got in a fight with my friend.

It went  somewhat like this:

We were playing tennis in the neighborhood when I saw a big bird. I think it was a robin. I thought the bird was cool. My friend wanted me to stop looking at the birds, so I stopped. After a few minutes, I saw a lot of robins. Again, I thought it was cool, but my friend didn’t want me to look at the little flock of birds.

She yelled, “They’re just stupid little birds!”

She scared them away but not on purpose. She said that I was too caught up in nature. She told me I should try something more interesting or at least something new. I told her that I only thought that nature really gained my interest when I was young, and I wanted to be a marine biologist my entire life. She said that maybe I am not supposed to be a marine biologist.

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That was it!

All of my feelings burst out! I YELLED AT HER! I ran away and went into my house. Before I knew it, I was inside telling my dad what happened to me. Just so you know I was crying too.

Time To Calm Things Down

I had to calm down. How did I do this?

  • I talked things through with my dad.
  • I wrote the situation down so that it was out of my head.

After I calmed down, I talked to my friend. We are still very good friends.

What about you?

  1. What makes you angry?
  2. How do you calm down?

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Chapter 1 – New House, New Rules – Kid Discussion

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“‘WHAT HAVE I TOLD YOU,’ thundered his uncle spraying spit over the table, ‘ABOUT SAYING THE ‘M’ WORD IN OUR HOUSE?'” – Chapter 1, Harry Potter And The Chamber Of Secrets by J.K. Rowling.


 House Rules at the Dursleys

Harry Potter is back to his life at the Dursley’s home. We love celebrating birthdays at our family’s home. However, it seems in the Dursley home that if your last name is Potter, you might as well not have a birthday. Everyone was more interested in Uncle Vernon’s work meeting than in Harry’s birthday.

There was one moment when the family was sitting at the table eating that our family that was really funny. Can you guess which moment that was?

Harry asks Dudley to say the magic word before he passes Dudley the frying pan at the breakfast table. The Dursleys all freak out and Uncle Vernon violently reminds Harry that the word “magic,” is NOT to be used in their home. The whole time Harry was simply trying to get Dudley to say the word, “please.”

Comedy Leads to a Serious Conversation

This comical situation led to a conversation at our dinner table about the different rules that foster and adoptive kids have experienced from changing homes. I, Darren, grew up with my biological parents and we only moved one time during my childhood. In fact we only moved from one end of town to the other end. I have no idea what it is like to change homes constantly during childhood and with moving changing families and house rules.

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One of my sons immediately insisted, “There was nothing different (with house rules).”
I immediately questioned, “What about bedtimes and desserts at our house?
“Yeah. You guys (Margie and Darren) were more strict about our bedtimes than in other homes.” Another son piped in, “We also couldn’t eat as many desserts.”

My first son refused to admit that our home was a different experience for him. However, our whole family would admit that he had a difficult time at first in our home. In our home Margie and I have the rule that you eat what is put in front of you, and we always try new foods. Consequently, this means that we have various entrees for dinner as well as desserts. One of our sons loved ice cream and was upset when we changed his routine of receiving daily servings of ice cream.

While the other kids tried to come up with a situation or a rule that my first son would admit bothered him, I thought of a situation that effected all the kids.

“What about sharing your toys?” I asked the crew, “You all seemed to have trouble with sharing toys in our house.”

Let me explain that in our home we told the kiddos as they moved into our home that there were a couple of things to know about unpacking their toys.

  1. Toys put away in common areas like the family room were available for everyone to play with.
  2. Toys and belongings put away in your own room are off limits to other people. It’s understood that those are objects that are special to you and items you don’t want damaged by someone else.

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It seems simple enough, right? It also keeps little kids away from your stuff.

My son initially placed all of his belongings in his room.  Not a problem, except that he had more toys than room. However, he managed to get all of his items put away in his room in a relatively neat way. The next issue came though when he began thinking that people were taking his toys. He also believed that some of Margie and my toys were his. Suddenly, our household had a problem. My son would randomly take toys out of other kids’ hands and yell, “GIVE IT BACK. THAT’S MINE.” A crying child would then come to me and explain that the toy was in a common room. My son didn’t care. He insisted the item was his and wanted things his way.

“Why was this rule such a big deal for you do you think?” I asked.

“Well, we weren’t used to sharing things with kids we didn’t know,” my son finally admitted, “I was used to having toys all in my room.”

“When you’re moving from house to house, it was hard  because you didn’t know if your stuff would get lost or broken,” chimed another kid.

“When we move everything gets put in a trash bad – EVERYTHING,” exclaimed my first son, “You think stuff got lost.”

I didn’t think about that fear. Again we had the rule so that people felt like their possessions were safe.

It’s Your Turn:

  1. Are you ever scared that people will forget your birthday?
  2. What is a rule you don’t like in your house?
  3. Why does your family have that rule?
  4. If you changed homes, what are some of the new rules?
  5. What were some of the rules at your previous home?
  6. What are rules you would like to change in your home? Why?

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Kids’ Discussions:

Ch. 01 | Ch. 02 | Ch. 03 | Ch. 04 | Ch. 05 | Ch. 06 | Ch. 07 | Ch. 08 | Ch. 09 | Ch. 10 | Ch. 11 | Ch. 12

Parent Discussions: 

Ch. 01 | Ch. 02 | Ch. 03 | Ch. 04