Wise Thoughts From A Clever Foster – Adoptive Mom

When Children Are Property

When birth parents experience the removal of their children by child protective services, they tend to have a few different reactions: Work the Plan – Work Hard They do everything in their power...

5 Questions To Ask Before/After A Disruption: Did We Do All We Could?

  My son got into the car on one of the last days of school with his yearbook in hand. He commented that [our foster child I called “Little Bit”] was in the yearbook. I forgot. Inward...

4 Tips To Help Foster and Adoptive Children with Boundaries

  When a child is born, caregivers determine where the child will go. The child’s domain usually consists of a crib, the arms of caregivers and loved ones, or a place they are buckled into ...

6 Thoughts for Sharing Info. with Your Foster or Adoptive Child

Mom, Why…? I will never forget sitting at the dining room table one night eating dinner a family when one child suddenly and loudly blurted out, “Why do babies come out of the fagenie?R...

Does This Feel Like Foster Care? – 3 Feelings to Recognize in Children

Simple Item to Forget – Significant Lesson to Learn It started with a computer cord, or should I say a lack thereof. It was one of those “ah-ha” moments. Our family was in a crazy time of flux f...

8 Suggestions for Successfully Clothing a Foster or Adoptive Child

Parents want their children, especially foster and adoptive children—who can tend be targets of stereotypes, bullying, and judgement—to look well taken care of and to feel good about what they are wea...

3 Steps To Help With Regret From Fostering Or Adopting

The other day I was talking with a fellow adoptive parent, a fantastic mom, whom our family has know for many years. We were sharing our stories about being on the journey and suddenly the conversatio...

When Self-Care Means Sacrifice and Not Merely Survival

  At Transfiguring Adoption, we always say we strive to be the oxygen mask for caregivers, but I openly admit that I fail to put mine on all the time. And everyone suffers! As an introvert, I can...

Foster Care and Adoption: Do You Hear Me?

  Have you ever had a child who is constantly seeking attention? Who persistently makes noise or talks or does things that they know annoy you? Anything to have your attention every waking moment...