Wonder – Book Review for Foster and Adoptive Families

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From the Cover of Wonder by R.J Palacio:

“August (Auggie) Pullman was born with a facial difference that prevented him from going to a mainstream school – until now. He’s about to enter fifth grade at Beecher Prep, and if you’ve ever been the new kid, then you know how hard that can be. The thing is Auggie’s just an ordinary kid, with an extraordinary face. But can he convince his new classmates that he’s just like them, despite his appearances?”



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Transfiguring Adoption awarded this book 4 Hoots out of 5 based on how useful it will be for a foster/adoptive family. [Learn more about our Hoot grading system here]


What Our Family Thought:

The target audience for this book seems to be the general public. However, the theme of feeling isolated, bullied, and other such themes tend to hit close to home for many foster and adoptive children. Transfiguring Adoption believes this book would be best suited for children ages 11 and older. The book has become a pop culture sensation and is even now a successful motion picture. With such popularity this book will more likely be something that children will want to read and discuss as their peers have more than likely read the book as well. Those considering this book for their elementary school child should note that it is a chapter book and as the characters are in the fifth grade dealing with issues surrounding this age range.

This story centers around August (a.k.a. Auggie) Pullman who is a fifth grade boy who was born with a condition which left his face severely deformed. Through his early years Auggie was homeschooled but for various reasons his parents make the difficult decision of putting Auggie in mainstream school. Naturally, being bullied, made fun of, and constantly asked about his deformity is a major theme of the book.

The author has chosen not to simply tell you the tale of Auggie through his eyes but takes the opportunity to advance the tale to a certain point. Then the reader is taken two steps back to see the story from a different character’s eyes to advance you slightly further in the storyline before take you two steps back for a new character’s view. The different points of view seem to be an excellent way for the reader and a family to gain insight or begin a conversation about the reasoning behind someone’s actions.

Teenage adoptee and former foster youth, Jasmine Fink, assisted during this review. She found that foster/adoptive children would be able to relate to the isolation and feelings of being unable to conform to the social norm. Jasmine noted that while some people might scoff at a foster child or adoptee about aligning their feelings with Auggie’s physical deformity, Jasmine assured Transfiguring Adoption that the struggles and emotions are very much similar.

Transfiguring Adoption did not give this book full marks mainly because it did not deal directly with foster care or adoption. However, the story was well executed and presented several situations for which families can begin healthy conversations about emotions and motives for behavior.

Any foster or adoptive family with an eleven year old or older would do well to make this book a center piece of conversation in their home.


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It’s Your Turn:


Part One Questions:

  1. How did August feel getting the tour around his new school?
  2. Do foster or adoptive kids ever feel like Auggie when going to a new school? Explain.
  3. How did Auggie feel about the way he looked when eating?
  4. What is one way you look or do something that you wish you could change?
  5. What is the “cheese touch?” How did it make August feel?
  6. When do you feel like other people treat you like the “cheese touch?”
  7. How would you feel if you were August at the end of Part One?

Part Two Questions:

  1. Do you think Via feels jealous about the attention August receives?
  2. Does Via love August?
  3. Do mom and dad love Via?
  4. Do you ever find it hard to believe that people care about you?

Part Three Questions:

  1. Why does Summer befriend August?
  2. What do Summer and August talk about?
  3. What are three things that friends talk about? What about close/best friends?
  4. Why don’t the other kids want her to be friends with Auggie?
  5. How does she respond to them?
  6. How do you know that someone is your friend?
  7. What are three things that friends do for each other?

Part Four Questions:

  1. How does Jack seem to feel about his family not being as wealthy as some of the other families at school?
  2. Why do you think Jack said mean things about August at Halloween? Do those reasons make it okay?
  3. Why did Jack punch Julian? Was this a good way to handle the situation?
  4. How did Jack and August become friends again?
  5. Did Jack really feel bad about what he had done? How do you know?
  6. How does someone ask for forgiveness or tell someone they are sorry?
  7. What do you say when you accept someone’s apology?

Part Five Questions:

  1. Why do you think Justin likes Via and Auggie’s family so much?
  2. What do you think makes their family nice?
  3. Justin mentions, “Olivia’s family tell each other ‘i love you’ all the time.” Why do you think that is important to him? How might you feel if no one ever told you “I love you,”?
  4. How does Justin protect Jack?
  5. Justin knows that August has difficulties in life. How does Justin feel August has a good life?
  6. You may have some difficult situations. What things are going well in your life?

Part Six Questions:

  1. Why do you think kids at school were getting tired of “The War?”
  2. Why was Auggie so stressed about the hearing aid? Was it as bad as he imagined?
  3. Why did Auggie get so mad at dinner? Why did he think the situation was about him? Was it?
  4. What does it mean when people say someone is “self-conscious?”
  5. Can you think of a time in your family when someone got upset or angry when the situation wasn’t even about them? What are you “self-conscious” about?

Part Seven Questions:

  1. Why did Miranda make up lies about her life at camp?
  2. Do you think foster or adoptive kids ever make up stories about their life? Have you ever done that?
  3. Why do you think Miranda felt comfortable and safe in Via’s home?
  4. What things make you feel comfortable and safe in a home?

Part Eight Questions:

  1. Why was Auggie nervous about the camping trip?
  2. What makes you nervous about sleeping in a new room? Being in a dark room?
  3. What did Auggie like about camp?
  4. Why did the other guys from Breecher Prep help Jack and Auggie?
  5. How can you tell that mom, dad, and Via were worried about Auggie?
  6. When you have to deal with a new situation or “scary” circumstance, people that care about you are just as nervous for you. How can you tell that mom was nervous for Auggie before the trip? How can you tell that mom, dad, and Via were concerned for Auggie after the trip?
  7. Do your parents or foster parents worry about you? How can you tell? How do they answer these questions?
  8. Does it feel good or bad to have people worry about you?
  9. How would people say you’re a wonder?

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Charley Chatty and the Disappearing Pennies

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From the Cover of Charley Chatty and the Disappearing Pennies by Sarah Naish and Rosie Jefferies:

“Charley Chatty likes shiny things, especially shiny pennies. Sometimes Charley thinks her siblings get more than her so she likes to keep the pennies safe in her pocket.

Charley spots some pennies lying around the house, and puts them in her piggy bank. But she gets very nervous when her dad starts looking for the missing pennies. Luckily, Charley’s dad is good at working out what might, have happened and helps Charley to put it all right again.”



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Transfiguring Adoption awarded this book 4 Hoots out of 5 based on how useful it will be for a foster/adoptive family. [Learn more about our Hoot grading system here]


What Our Family Thought:

This book appears to target foster and adoptive families and seems to be best suited for children ages 3 – 10 years of age. This tale explores the themes of stealing or hoarding as well as lying when caught in the act of stealing. Like the other books in the series, this tale seems to give a true to life situation which will allow families to open up to healthy dialogue.

The illustrations in this book are adequate for communicating the concepts and ideas – the book notes that the illustrations have been deliberately left simple to help children focus on the story. The pictures should keep your child engaged throughout the story.

The story centers around Charley Chatty, who is an adoptive little girl found within the other books of the series. This tale is the second book that centers on this character. The book hones in on Charley’s habit of taking things that do not belong to her. Specifically taking things around her adoptive home that belong to her siblings or parents.

As was mentioned above, the story introduces a situation that could be plucked from many foster or adoptive homes. This will allow families to utilize this story as a great discussion piece within their home. The book introduces Charley’s motivation for taking things, her feelings throughout the course of the act, and an example of how parents can successfully react to the situation.

As always the books from this series end with a section written to caregivers explaining the reasoning behind trauma-caused behaviors. This last section also explains how therapeutic parents should respond to these problematic situations. All the while explaining the science and psychology in a way in which you don’t have to be a professional therapist to understand.

Transfiguring Adoption overall finds this book very applicable and fun for a foster or adoptive family. Charley Chatty would be a great addition to a foster/adoptive family bookshelf.


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It’s Your Turn:

  1. How did “sharing” Sophie’s things make Charley feel?
  2. Why do you think Charley yelled at her dad?
  3. Why does have a good feeling in her chest at the end?
  4. Does Charley’s dad still love her after she took the pennies?
  5. How do you think Sophie felt when her pennies were missing?
  6. How do you think Sophie felt when Charley gave the pennies back?

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Boo Who? – Book Review

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From the Cover of Boo Who? by Ben Clanton:

“Boo is new — and it can be scary being new, especially for a shy ghost who can’t play any of the other kids’ games. Can Boo find a way to fit in and make friends with the rest of the group?

From the creator of Rex Wrecks It! comes a story about feeling invisible — and finding a way to be seen and appreciated for who you are.”



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Transfiguring Adoption awarded this book 4 Hoots out of 5 based on how useful it will be for a foster/adoptive family. [Learn more about our Hoot grading system here]


What Our Family Thought:

The target audience for this book appears to be the general public – specifically children in elementary school or approximately 4 to 10 years of age. Transfiguring Adoption was interested in this book as not only does it provide a fun tale that one might read around Halloween but it discusses feelings a child might have when they are the new student at a school. Naturally, being the new student at school is a common situation amongst foster and/or adoptive children.

The illustrations in the book seem to be very imaginative and animated. The colorful drawings have strong lines and a stylistic 2-D quality. The characters represented in the images are not human but imaginary characters of various sizes, colors, and genders which make this a good book for families with multiple races. The images do well to move the emotions and feelings of the story and seem to appeal to the lower age demographic which we mentioned above.

The story centers around a little ghost named Boo who is new to an area. The images suggest the characters are on a school playground but we are never told if Boo is new to a whole city or area or is Boo simply attending a new school – this generality makes the tale applicable to more children. Boo is having to deal with his insecurities and fears of making new friends and trying to fit in.

The story portrays the other characters in the book as being friendly and actually wanting to include Boo in their group. The tale proceeds to show how the characters interact with each other attempting to help Boo to fit in with their group.

While this book does not directly speak to foster or adoptive families, it would appear to be a great tale to generate healthy conversations about beginning a new school with a younger child. Transfiguring Adoption appreciates that this story’s plot circles around the issue of helping Boo to deal with his insecurities instead of creating an opposing character who acts as a bully or angry character. This will help caregivers focus their attention talking about a child’s fears and enforce the idea that other children at school will most likely be kind and friendly people.

Overall, Boo Who? seems to be a delightful tale which might be a quick read with your child but will provide long-lasting and healthy conversations with your child.


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It’s Your Turn:

  1. How can you see that the other children were friendly?
  2. Why was Boo scared? Why is being new scary?
  3. Which game was Boo the best at?
  4. Were all the kids good at all the games?
  5. What would you feel like if you were new?
  6. What good questions to ask people when you’re meeting someone new?

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