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You’re Not My REAL Mother – Book Review


From the Cover:

What makes a mother REAL?

Molly Friedrich describes these and other activities in a book that reveals a loving, vital relationship between an adopted girl and her mother. Christy Hale’s intimate illustrations enhance the dynamic interactions between mother and daughter with warmth and charm. You’re Not My Real Mother! offers a fresh view of the emotional realities and wonders of a special kind of bond and a different kind of family.



Transfiguring Adoption awarded this book 3 Hoots out of 5 based on how useful it will be for a foster/adoptive family. [Learn more about our Hoot grading system here]

What Our Family Thought:

All the members of our family, including our teens, enjoyed reading this book together. We felt it was a good book for children being parented by anyone who is not their biological parent, particularly those who look different than their foster or adoptive parents. It tackles the issue of what makes a parent “real” and also allows children to ask questions like, “Why don’t I look like you?” The pictures are bright, realistic, interesting, and funny.

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Discussion Questions for Your Family:

  1. What makes someone a mother?
  2. What do your foster or adoptive parents do for you?


Practice giving each other care. You can put bandaids on each other’s hurts, feed each other, brushing each other’s hair, or some other nurturing activity. Check out this blog: Band-Aids Heal More Than You Can See for more information about nurturing.


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