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Tea Party Rules – Foster Care and Adoption Book Review


From the Cover of Tea Party Rules by Ame Dyckman:

“When Cub follows his nose through the woods, he discovers a backyard tea party . . . with cookies! He is just about to dig in when the hostess of the tea party shows up. And she has several strong opinions on how Tea Party must be played. Cub tries to follow her rules . . . but just how much can one bear take, even for cookies?

A laugh-out-loud funny look at the required give-and-take of playtime, Tea Party Rules is an eventual friendship story that will delight grubby cubs, fancy girls, and cookie lovers everywhere.



Transfiguring Adoption gave this book 4 out of 5 Hoots based on it’s usefulness to foster and adoptive families. [Learn more about our Hoot grading system here.]

What Our Family Thought:

The target audience of this book is ages 4 and up. However, everyone in our family from our 8 year old son to our 17 year old son, mom and dad had fun with the storyline of this book. The book kept everyone’s attention.

The illustrations are great for elementary school aged children and add to the fun of this story.

While this book will be enjoyed by every family, we especially encourage families with foster children, children adopted from foster care, or kids adopted at pre-school age and higher to read this book together.

Foster and adoptive families will find a great illustration to discuss. As Cub enters into a tea party, he quickly discovers that there are social rules and cues that are foreign to his way of life. This is a great illustration for how our foster/adoptive kids come into our homes. They are used to different foods, different household rules and different ways of socializing in a family. Through the story foster and adoptive families can see the different feelings and emotions exhibited when people demand their rules be followed without any give or take. The book will allow parents to view how their children must feel with new expectations placed on their life while the story is a good tool for kids to express how they may feel in a new situation. It’s a great story to help your family learn how to better do a relationship dance.

Ame Dyckman is a superb storyteller. If for no other reason, our family would recommend this book to foster, adoptive or ANY family purely for the entertainment value. Be sure to check out Ame’s other books: Wolfie the Bunny and Boy + Bot.

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It’s Your Turn:

  1. What is your favorite game to play (pretend, board game, or video game)?
  2. Do you like playing when someone doesn’t follow your rules?
  3. What is it like when someone changes the rules in the middle of pretending or a board game?
  4. What were some of the rules in your biological home?
  5. What are rules that are different in your foster/adoptive home?
  6. What are rules in your foster/adoptive home that you like?
  7. Ask your foster/adoptive parent(s) what rules changed for them when you joined their family.


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