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Using Media to Bond with Your Kids – Discussion Panel


Talking with children from traumatic backgrounds can be difficult. What questions do you ask? What topics do you steer clear of? How do you get them to open up?!
Join us for this Discussion Panel of experts as we talk about how books, movies and songs can effectively be used to help your child open up.

Addison Cooper, Founder of Adoption at the Movies
Gayle Swift, Author of ABC, Adoption and Me
Margie Fink, Co-Founder of Transfiguring Adoption


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ABC, Adoption & Me – Children’s Book Review


From the Cover of ABC, Adoption & Me by Gayle H. Swift with Casey A. Swift:

“Finally, a book about adoption that celebrates the miracle of family and addresses the difficult issues as well. With charming, exuberant illustrations and a diverse representation of families, ABC, Adoption & Me will warm hearts, deepen understanding of what it means to be an adoptive family and provide teaching moments that bring families closer, connected in truth, compassion, and joy.”



Transfiguring Adoption awarded this book 4 Hoots out of 5 based on how useful it will be for a foster/adoptive family. [Learn more about our Hoot grading system here]

What Our Family Thought:

We feel based on the way the content is set up and presented that pre-school to early elementary school aged children are going to do the best with this book. This book appears to be written for an adoptive family audience although foster families will find the book some what useful as well.

When we set the illustrations next to other books such as The Adventures of Beekle or The Boy Who Built a Wall Around Himself, we felt that the pictures in this book were simply adequate.

The written content was created by an adoptive mother and her adopted adult daughter. The book did a great job of holding the attention of our elementary aged son. It also brought up many excellent feelings or issues that children who have experienced adoption are going to think about at some point. We would dare to say that it would be worth going through a letter a day with a middle school aged child to merely give a topic of discussion to work through with your kiddo.

Overall, this book did great for engaging children and presenting adoption related concepts. The book could not be issued all five hoots merely due to the fact that the illustrations didn’t measure up next to other books in our perfect score category. However, the written content and concepts presented in this work make it a book that your adoptive family needs to investigate and use as a tool for bringing about healthy conversation.

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It’s Your Turn:

  1. This book is uses the alphabet to make a story about adoption. Can you make fun name that describes you? Use the first letter of your name to pick a describing word for you.
    (i.e. Silly Sam, Daring Debbie, Calm Cody)
  2. Letter E in the book stands for Excited. Ask your parent(s) to tell you about the day you were adopted. What happened? How did they feel? Did your family celebrate?
  3. Letter Q in the book stands for Questions. What are good ways to tell people you do NOT want to talk about your adoption?
  4. Letter T in the book stands for Truth. Do you FEEL like your parents tell you the truth about your adoption? Why or Why not?
  5. Letter N in the book stands for Naughty or Nice. Do your parent(s) love you when you do not do the right thing? How do you know? Can you do anything to make your parent(s) stop loving you?