Discussion Guide:

1. What do you think happened to Agent M’s family?
   This is a great way to help your kids use their imagination. Nothing is told to us about what happens to Agent M’s family, so they must fill in the blanks. This always allows us to see if our kids are a “glass half full” or “half empty” thinker. Some might say that they are on an extended vacation, others may say that she died. This is certain to open up some conversations about Agent M and more of her backstory.
2. How do you think Agent H felt when he found out about Agent High T?
   Sometimes our kids struggle to talk about their feelings, but when talking in context about someone else, they are able to allow some empathy to come through, showcasing their own feelings. This is a great question to ask kids who might have experienced the disappointment of an important adult in their life, but can also cause old wounds to be re-opened, so proceed cautiously with this question.
3. If you could have a sidekick like Pawnie, what would yours be like?
   Pawnie was a great addition to these films. He had just the right amount of humor mixed with allegiance to his queen. Understanding what our children value in their sidekicks, aka their friends, helps us identify what is important to them.
4. Is there someone like The Bodyguard that you owe something to? How could you repay them?
   The Bodyguard being the small creature that Agent M saved in her bedroom all those years prior was a nice surprise! Agent M did something nice for The Bodyguard with no expectation of repayment. Identifying ways we can help others in the future because of the nice things they’ve done for us can help someone in ways that we don’t understand. Kindness is an important characteristic to teach, and this gives us the ability to connect with our kids on how to help others.
5. Is there a time you had to fight for what you wanted like Agent M? What did it feel like to not be listened to? A lot of times, our kids feel like no one is listening to them. As parents, we get so wrapped up in every day life that we sometimes forget that these miniature version of adults have their own thoughts, feelings, and desires. Even if what they are wanting is unrealistic (I’m still waiting on my unicorn, mom!), it’s important to help them feel heard. If you hear them on the small things then they will trust that you will hear them on the big things too.
6. The bad guys in the movie pretended to be someone they aren’t by shape shifting. Have you ever pretended to be someone you aren’t? It’s not unheard of that our kids envy the portrayal of others through social media, tv, and their friends. Sometimes it’s hard to be yourself when you feel like you are the only one that is a certain way. Many of our children have a complex explaining that they are adopted, as the majority of children are not updated. This question allows you to connect to your child about what makes them feel different than others, and gives you an opportunity to validate who they are as a person.
7. If someone you cared about turned out to be a traitor, how would you handle it? The likelihood is that our children are going to encounter someone eventually who is going to be considered a backstabber. This may be a friend, a crush, or a family member. This experience will be painful for them, but helping them identify ways to manage those feelings in advance can help them when they are in the midst of the pain.
8. Do you think Agent M’s popularity will change who she is as a person? Agent M went from being a low probationary agent to a world saving MIB. Now that she’s going back to New York, I have to wonder if this will change who she is as a person. She doesn’t have to have fake confidence anymore like she previously did as she saved the world. This could have also backfired and made her more cocky. Instead of letting our good deeds inflate our kids ego, it’s nice to help them feel proud of their accomplishments while still allowing them to be humble.

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