Discussion Guide:

1. Have you ever felt like Woody and felt like another toy was taking your place? What did that feel like? What did you do?
   Caregiver Note: This is a good question to open the floor to discussion. This question will also encourage introspection, meaning that children connect feelings to behaviors. This is a valuable skill that, if practiced often, will serve them well as they grow and form relationships with others.
2. Have you ever felt like Buzz, crash landed onto another world with no sign of familiarity? How did you feel versus how you acted?
   Caregiver Note: This is a good question to help connect feelings to behaviors. Remember, children from the child welfare system develop survival behaviors in their original cultures and may not realize why they do specific things (i.e. what need the behavior was formed to address) or why some behaviors that achieved needs before don’t work in your home.
3. Why was it so important for Woody to return to Andy as his toy? Why was it important for Buzz to return to Star Command before learning he’s a toy?
   Caregiver Note: It’s interesting to see how children can pick up on these things. For both established children and foster children, they may point out themes of family and returning to a place they felt they belong.
4. What do you think would have been a more cooperative/considerate way for Woody to discuss with Buzz their roles as toys? Or for Woody to express to the toys how he felt?
   Caregiver Note: For both biological children and foster/adoptive children, this will help foster discussion on using appropriate means to communicate needs. This would be a good avenue to discuss using “I-statements,” Active Listening, and “I Think…/I Feel..” to aid in problem solving through effective communication. I used a similar avenue for my child when she was about seven and was amazed how quickly she caught on between discussing these terms and modeling these myself when conflict occurred in the house. She’s nearly fourteen now, and I’ve overheard her coaching her peers with this as well!
5. How do you think the other toys could have supported Woody to help the transition? How could Woody have better handled Buzz’s learning he is a toy?
   Caregiver Note: This seems like a stretch of a question, but if we seriously consider how Woody reacted to all the changes, we will notice how a few toys egged on Woody from the moment Buzz’s rocket-box crash landed on Andy’s bed. Mr. Potato Head and Hamm both appear to love to take jabs at Woody and feed into his insecurity. This can be a great discussion on how humor can be good and healing but also be used to tear others down. Woody also tended to lash out at Buzz with passive-aggressive (or just aggressive) humor as well and mocked Buzz for his belief that he’d be going home to Star Command. In both of these questions, children can discuss and practice reading social emotions and the power of words.
6. Do you know someone like Sid? How did his choices affect the family members and toys around him? Has there been a time where you felt like Sid?
   Caregiver Note: Though Sid is easily portrayed as the villain, some of our children may relate to trouble-making Sid. Children often develop survival behaviors that make sense in the contexts the behavior was formed but make no sense outside of that context. We don’t see much background for Sid in the film, but there are a few hints throughout the film that Sid does not get much attention or supervision from his parents. We see him acting out for attention in picking at his sister and how he mutilates toys. Sid also appears to have a lot of focus on garnering control. Watch how he “interrogates” Woody in his room, and you’ll slowly notice book guides on interrogation and other items related to “bad cop” type instruction. This can be a good discussion on how Sid’s behaviors, while very maladaptive to social functioning, do not mean he is doomed to be a “bad kid.” Sid may have a caring adult in his life who can help him learn better ways to communicate his needs (like Woody and Buzz are learning) and control his actions to help him reach goals that are acceptable to the rules of society.
7. What did Woody do well when talking Buzz through Christmas morning?
   Caregiver Note: This will not only end the discussion on a positive note but will also help biological children to open discussion about welcoming a child in the home. This can also help established foster/adoptive youth turn thoughts towards welcoming a newcomer as Buzz is also feeling some fear of change and rejection here as well.
8. How can a foster family (both children and adults) help foster children adjust when “There is no sign of intelligent life anywhere?”
   Caregiver Note: Encourage your family to think of different ways to make a new child comfortable in the home the first few weeks. This would be a great time to discuss how children from foster care may not conduct themselves the way your household may and to be prepared for differences. If you have taken a cultural awareness class in your pre-approval or post-approval classes, some notes from those may be helpful. Remember, culture can refer to a variety of factors and not just race/ethnicity.
9. ACTIVITY: Role play how Woody and the toys could have better welcomed Buzz. Then, role play how Woody and the other toys could have better communicated about Woody’s feelings and supported one another.
   Caregiver Note: Children of all ages learn best by doing. Even the smallest children are better able to remember what they have learned if they say it, sing it, and act it out themselves. Make it fun! Dress up or make a cowboy hat and space helmet as a family so that different family members can take turns. Make sure to applaud and praise the children for strengths in their “performances.”
10. ACTIVITY: Make a “Welcome List” as a family.
    Caregiver Note: As a family, create a to-do list for welcoming a new child into the home. Have your children contribute ideas and have items for every member of the family. Again, make it fun with lots of colors and pictures to decorate. These can include items like helping the child unpack, giving a house tour, showing where the “best” toys are, having the foster child’s bed space ready and clean, introductions with family pets, etc. Keep this with your paperwork and refer to it during family meetings before and after placements so as a family you can determine what helped more or if something should be added. Children love to contribute and this is a great way to give direction for that desire to help.

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