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The Day We Met You-Adoption Book Review


From the Cover of The Day We Met You by Phoebe Koehler:

The sun shone bright the day we met you. So begins a mother and father’s loving description of the joyful, excited preparations for bringing home their adopted baby. Phoebe Koehlers simple, affectionate words and soft, rich pastels combine to create the perfect read-aloud for adoptive parents to explain the adoption experience to even the youngest children. Afterword by Lois Ruskai Melina, author of Raising Adopted Children.



Transfiguring Adoption gave this book 4 out of 5 Hoots based on it’s usefulness to foster and adoptive families. [Learn more about our Hoot grading system here.]

What Our Family Thought:

This is an excellent book for families who have adopted a child as an infant to read to their babies and toddlers as they grow. The book contains simple crayon-type illustrations and little text, so you can easily change what you say on each page to fit your family’s specific situation and even add on to your descriptions as the child gets older.

Almost as important as the book itself to an adoptive parent is the afterword written by Lois Ruskai Melina, author of Making Sense of Adoption and Raising Adoption Children and who edits and publishes Adopted Child newsletter. She gives great advice about talking to your children about their adoption as they grow. We recommend reading this important section as the adults before reading the book to your child.

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It’s Your Turn:

As this book is for infants and toddlers, we don’t have discussion questions. However, we encourage you to read the afterword to yourselves before reading the book to your child and follow the wise advice there for how to talk to your child about adoption. Personalize the story as you see fit and give the affection (varying depending on the type of affection your child can accept and tolerate) and affirmation your child needs to know they are special.


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