In this short story, 23 Year old Elijah seeks to confront his absent biological father face to face. He plans to do so without warning, knowing that his birthfather would likely attempt to avoid him.
Through the process, we see Elijah experience tension with his adoptive family. We also witness mental struggle as Elijah uncovers more disturbing news about his closed adoption. We follow him and his friend Greg as their search takes them from Provo, Utah to one of the most dangerous cities in America. -All these things PLUS a look at how the process of adoption has drastically changed due to the unforeseen complications of the internet and social media. This is a story of gratitude, forgiveness, and acceptance.
Transfiguring Adoption awarded this movie 5 Hoots out of 5 based on how useful it will be for a foster/adoptive family. [Learn more about our Hoot grading system here]
Transfiguring Adoption’s Thoughts:
Lucky Bastard is the journey of 23 year old adoptee, Elijah Thomas, as he searches to meet/confront his birth father. The film presents itself as a documentary which is created for the general public. However, the subject matter obviously relates to foster and adoptive families.
The film appears best suited for those who are 13 years or older. This is due to the film discussing real issues and decisions that were made during or before Elijah’s life. Some of these issues include discussing abortion, rejecting a child, physical abuse, and complicated family histories. It should also not be ignored that due to the honesty of this film real emotions come to the surface which younger children may not be ready to process.
- Emotional Triggers
Since this film is a true documentary, foster/adoptive kids are going to be confronted with many similar issues from their own story. Some children are going to struggle with the real content without an adult to help them walk through the mental processing that this movie could potentially dig up.
- Healthy Dialogues
This film shows not only an adoptive family having healthy discussions but also shows healthy dialogue with the birth parents. A caregiver would definitely be able to use this film as way to show what it might look like for a healthy family to talk about fears, hopes, sadness, etc.
- Secrets and/or Surprises
Healthy conversations that deserve their own bullet point are surprises/secrets. Throughout the film Elijah discovers more about his past story. Within these discoveries caregivers will be able to talk to their child about the reasons for not disclosing information – such as they are too young for heavy content matter.
- Examples of Love
The film indeed shows an adoptive family that is nervous about Elijah’s plans to meet his birth father, but also a family that loves him enough to allow him to have the opportunity. This can also be said of his birth mother too. The love, fear, and nervousness of the caregivers will allow other caregivers to be real about their fears with their foster/adoptive children. Children will be able to better understand fears from a parents’ perspective.
Overall the film will allow caregivers (and the general public) to see the importance and sheer longing that people have for understanding their past.
The film allows Elijah to make sense of his life in a way and in such ends on a positive, forgiving, and hopeful note. His example will allow caregivers and foster/adoptive kids alike to follow his example in making sense of the situation they find themselves.
Overall, at the very least Transfiguring Adoption feels that this movie would be great to educate the general public or those interested in pursuing foster care or adoption to get a glimpse at the life of an adoptive family and the issues surrounding them. The film is also a useful tool for current caregivers to get a better understanding of the thoughts and emotions that their child might be trying to process while searching for their identity. In the best scenario this movie could be very useful for creating an atmosphere where healthy conversations are begun with a caregiver and child. Transfiguring Adoption does suggest that caregivers view the film before showing it to their child to assess if triggers exist for their family.
- Do you think in the film that Elijah liked his adoptive family? Why? Why not?
- Why do you think he wanted to meet his birth father?
- Do you think it was good that Elijah discussed the meeting with his adoptive parents? Why? Why not?
- What fears did Elijah’s adoptive parents have?
- Do you think your foster/adoptive parents have similar fears? Why? Why not?
- How did the meeting help Elijah?
- What did Elijah think of his life at the end of the film?
- How do you feel like Elijah sometimes?