Books By Adoptees

Books have been a tremendous resource for us as foster and adoptive parents. Here we will share books written by adoptees, whose voice is most important when it comes to adoption, policies, parenting, and so on.

Inclusion on this list does not necessarily mean endorsement as we have not had the chance to read all of them. By clicking on “Book Review,” you can learn a bit more about each book, and if we’ve had a chance to read it, we will review it on the these links.

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TitleAuthorTopic/ThemeGradeAmazon
20 Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to MakeEldridge, Sherrieadoption issues; grief; anger; questions; written by adoptee with input from 70 othersNot Reviewed Yet.
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360 Square: A Memoir of Adoption and IdentityWelsh, Carol Lillieqvistadoptee who is also a birth mother and adoptive motherNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Adoptee: A Childhood of TormentSabol, Joseph M. adoptee who was abused, beaten, taunted, humiliated but flourishes as an adultNot Reviewed Yet.
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An Adoptee LexiconPickell, Karenadoption terminology from adoptee's perspectiveNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
The Adoptee Survival Guide: Adoptees Share Their Wisdom and ToolsGrubb, Lynnsupport, encouragement, understandingNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
The Adoption Machine: The Dark History of Ireland’s Mother & Baby Homes and the Inside Story of How “Tuam 800” Became a Global ScandalRedmond, Paul Judeneglect, death of Irish babies by Catholic Church, adoption profits, corruption, repression of birth mothersNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
After the Truth: A MemoirStrickland, Paige Adams adult adoptee, impacts on perception of crucial parts of life, unanswered questions, effects of being adoptedNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Akin to the Truth: A Memoir of Adoption and IdentityStrickland, Paige Adams adult adoptee, adopted in 1960s, birth family search, effects of being adoptedNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
All You Can Ever Know: A MemoirChung, Nicoletransracial adoption, Korean American, identity, belonging, searchNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Almost Home: A MemoirHarper, Hilary longing for authentic identity, adoptee, adoption impacts, search for answersNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for SelfBrodzinsky, David M., Ph.D., Schechter, Marshall D., M.D., & Henig, Robin Marantzadoptees; adoptive parents; adoption; lifelong effectsNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Beneath the Mask: For Teen Adoptees: Teens and Young Adults Share Their StoriesCenter for Adoption Support and Educationteen and young adult adopteesNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Beyond Two Worlds: A Taiwanese-American Adoptee’s Memoir & Search for IdentityHuang, Marijaneidentity, culture, search, ethnicity, birth heritageNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Birthright: The Guide to Search and Reunion for Adoptees, Birthparents, and Adoptive ParentsStrauss, Jean A. S.birth family search; birth family reunionNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Bitterroot: A Salish Memoir of Transracial AdoptionHarness, Susan Devanjourney to understand the complexities and struggles of being an American Indian child adopted by a white couple and living in the rural American WestNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Black Anthology: Adult Adoptees Claim Their Space (The AN-YA Project)O'Connor, Susan Harris; Christian, Diane Rene; and Ellerman, Mei-Mei Akwaidiverse group of black adoptees, struggle, dignity, accomplishments, insurmountable oddsNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Coming Together: An Adoptee's StoryShideler, Marthaidentity, government agencies, adoption personnel, joy, resolution, search, familyNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Decoding Our Origins: The Lived Experiences of Colombian AdopteesForero-Hilty, Abby stories of 18 transracial adoptees, Colombia, search, reunion, culture, lossNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
A Family from Barra: An Adoption StoryMartin, Beryladoptee, abuse, birth family search, reunionNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Famous Adopted People: A NovelStephens, AliceKorean-American adoptees, birth family searchNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Flip the Script: Adult Adoptee AnthologyChristian, Diane Reneadoption experience, adoption myths, complex and diverse emotionsNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Found and Lost: An Adoption, An Agency and A Search for SelfBrownstein, Suzette J.adoptee, secrecy in adoption, feelings, complications, dealing with pastNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
The Foundling: The True Story of a Kidnapping, a Family Secret, and My Search for the Real MeFronczak, Paul Joseph and Tresniowski, Alexpermanence, loss of identity, search, bloodlines, emotional tollNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Frankie and Friends Talk AdoptionKroskie, Pam and Keithley, Marciechildren's book, feelings related to adoptionNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Finding Family: My Search for Roots and the Secrets of My DNAHill, Richardadoptee; biological family search; mystery; sealed records; genealogy; DNANot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Fish Heads and Folktales: Reflections on Culture, Family, and Life from a Korean AdopteeMoran, Peter M. (Kim Jai Chul)adoptee; international adoption; Korea; memoirNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
The Ghost at Heart's Edge: Stories and Poems on AdoptionIto, Susanmemoirs; birth parents; adoptive parents; adopteesNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
The Goodbye Baby: A Diary About AdoptionPinkerton, Elaineadoptee; personal struggles; birth family; anger; painNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
How It Feels to Be AdoptedKrementz, Jilladoptee feelings; 19 boys and girls, from age 8 - 16Not Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Invisible Asians: Korean American Adoptees, Asian American Experiences, and Racial Exceptionalism (Asian American Studies Today)Nelson, Kim ParkKorean-American adoptees, birth family searchNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
It’s Not About You: Understanding Adoptee Search, Reunion, and Open AdoptionEdited by Brooke Randolph, MA, NCC, LMHCsearch, reunion, open adoptionNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
It Wasn't LoveLee, J.S. rape, Korean-American adoptee, sexuality, identity, shame, acceptance, loveNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Journey Of The Adopted Self: A Quest For WholenessLifton, Betty Jeanidentity, adoption experience, search for rootsNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Killing KarolineKing, Sarah-JayneSouth African adoptee, Wales, apartheid, identity, race, rejection, belonging, birth family search, reunionNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
The Last YearBanis, Ameliabirth family search, caring for dying adoptive father, emotions, past, birth and adoptive family relationshipsNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Little Sylvie, An Unforgettable Adoption StoryGagnon, Sylvieorphan, adoption, found by birth mother, traumaNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Meeting Once More: The Korean Side of Transnational AdoptionPrebin, Elise M. transnational adoption, impact on birth families, impact on birth country, return to birth countryNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Odyssey Of A Belief: An Adoptee's JournalZychik, Joe Wh. foster care, adoption, abuse, triumphNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Once They Hear My Name: Korean Adoptees and Their Journeys Toward IdentityLee, Ellen; Lammert, Marilyn; Hess, Mary Anne9 Korean-American adoptees, race, struggles, identity, alienation, family, search for rootsNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
One Perfect Day: A Mother and Son's Story of Adoption and ReunionBurke, Diane & Orlandi, Stevebirthmother; adoptee; love; family; loss; forgivenessNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Parallel Universes: The Story of Rebirth: A MemoirBohl, David B. emotions, search for happiness, addiction, challenges, genetics, birth parent searchNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Parenting As AdopteesChau, Adam, and Ost-Vollmers, Kevinfamily, race, ethnicity, migration, parenting, complexities, unknown histories, abandonment, griefNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Parenting in the Eye of the Storm: The Adoptive Parent’s Guide to Navigating the Teen Years
[Our Review]
Naftzger, Katieadoptive parenting, parenting teens, teenagers5 Hoots Out of 5
5 hoots out of 5
Prison Baby: A MemoirStein, Deborah Jiangadoptee; foster care; adoptionNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Searching for EndaDenny, Paul G.British adoptee, identity, belongingNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Somebody’s DaughterPhillips, Zara H. infant adoption, addiction, identity, searchNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Swabbed & Found: An Adopted Man’s DNA Journey to Discover his Family TreeBillingsley, FrankDNA, searchNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
This is My Lemonade: An Adoption StoryMulkey, Robert Alanadoptee; identity; acceptance; family search; forgivenessNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Through Adopted Eyes: A Collection of Memoirs From AdopteesHall, Elena S. adoptees of different ages, heritages, and perspectivesNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Too Afraid To CryEckermann, Ali Cobby abuse, trauma, raceNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents KnewEldridge, Sherriecomplex emotional issues, understanding, grief, lossNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
Walk Away (Kindle Single)Leavitt, Michellechild abuse, partner violenceNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
When You Never Said Goodbye: An Adoptee’s Search for Her Birth Mother: A Novel in Poems and Journal EntriesKearney, Megbirth mother search, bureaucracy, lawsNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
You Don’t Know How Lucky You Are: An Adoptee’s Journey Through The American Adoption ExperienceOwens, RudyAmerican institution of adoption, politics, controversies and complexities of adoption, birth records, birth family searchNot Reviewed Yet. Tell Us To Review This Next.
You Don't Look Adopted

[Our Review]
Heffron, Anneadoptee; searching for roots4 Out of 5 Hoots