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Forever Mom – Book Review


“This is by far the best resource I’ve encountered for equipping and encouraging Christian parents at every stage of the adoption journey—from considering adoption for the first time to parenting an adopted child into adulthood.”

—Shaun Groves, ambassador for Compassion International and recording artist

My thoughts on Forever Mom:

Mary Ostyn weaves together her personal experiences during the adoption journey and the stories of other families with introductions to different theories and principles from leading professionals in the area of adoption. She walks reader through her family’s story, from deciding to adopt through each step of the process and life afterwards raising her children. Her writing flows, and while she gives a primer into brain science and other more complicated topics, she does so in every day language creating a quick read which I got through in snippets of time over two days.

I found this book to be engaging and encouraging. Forever Mom is definitely a great read for people considering international adoption as her experiences have been with adopting 6 kids, both infants and older children, from Korea and Ethiopia, though she discusses all the different adoption routes. Mary shares her experiences, both the good and bad, from the joyful moments to unmet expectations and shattered dreams, making her book one which all adoptive parents can relate to in some way or another. She also provides a book list for further reading by respected professionals in the field of adoption from which she developed her parenting methods.

One last part of the book that I really connected with was Mary’s stories of visiting Korea to pick up her sons and bringing them back for a homeland visit (where they also met one of the boy’s biological parents and reconnected with their foster moms). Having spent two years living and working in South Korea during which time I spent many hours volunteering in our city, I traveled with her in my mind back to my second home.

You can learn more about Mary, her family, and her other books on her blog at

From the Cover of Forever Mom: What to Expect When You’re Adopting by Mary Ostyn:

Mary Ostyn married her sweetheart at nineteen, and the pair had four kids by their eighth anniversary. When their youngest was three, God opened their eyes to the needs of orphans all over the world—and answered Mary’s longing for another baby. Over the next nine years the couple adopted two boys from Korea and four girls from Ethiopia.

Ostyn, a beloved adoption writer and blogger, shares—alongside stories from other adoptive families—the practical tools and resources she uses to thrive as an adoptive mom. In Forever Mom, she reveals how to:

  • prepare your other children for new siblings
  • help babies, toddlers, and older children settle in
  • address misbehavior while remaining connected
  • nurture your marriage in the midst of it all

Whether you’re the parent of an adopted child or interested in pursuing adoption, Ostyn’s warm advice and fresh perspective will inspire, inform, and affirm. You’ll walk away confident you will be the perfect mom for whatever child God brings into your life.

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