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I Don’t Have Your Eyes-Book Review


From the Cover of I Don’t Have Your Eyes by Carrie A. Kitze:

“I Don’t Have Your Eyes…but I have your way of looking at things.” This begins this beautifully illustrated and uplifting book that helps to create the intimate parent/caregiver and child bond that is so important within a family. While others may notice the physical differences, there are so many ways we can celebrate the commonality that makes us truly family. We don’t look the same on the outside, but in our hearts, we are the same.



Transfiguring Adoption awarded this book 4 Hoots out of 5 based on how useful it will be for a foster/adoptive family. [Learn more about our Hoot grading system here]

What Our Family Thought:

We feel the target audience for this book is elementary-aged children, particularly those being raised by caregivers whom they do not look like. While the short sentences and colorful illustrations would appeal to a young child, some of the concepts (like letting your hair down or standing tall because of pride) will not be understood until possibly middle elementary school or so.

The illustrations are large, colorful, and simple, each focusing on one child and his or her caregiver. The children and caregivers have varying skin tones, eye colors, hair colors, and hair types, are of varying ethnicities and ages. Children in different foster, kinship, or adoptive situations will likely be able to identify with the illustrations. This book is particularly useful for transracial families to celebrate both their commonalities and differences.

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Discussion Questions:

  1. How are you different from your foster or adoptive family members?
  2. How is your smile different from your parent(s)?
  3. What are the same ways that you and your parent(s) make people smile/laugh?
  4. How are you the same as your foster or adoptive family members?


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